Fixing the match to partner journey
for 112 million U.S. singles
The First Dating Intelligence Layer
The most comprehensive relationship assessment ever built. Discover your persona, understand your dating patterns, and see who you're actually compatible with. Take meaningful steps with your partner to improve your relationship. All backed by clinical psychology and supported by Claude.ai.
336
Assessment Questions
32
Unique Personas
8
Clinical Frameworks
16
Match Rankings
The Assessment
Five modules. One complete profile.
Each module measures a different dimension of how you relate. Together, they build the most detailed relationship profile you'll ever receive.
What You Want
25 minutes
Map your preferences across four dimensions: physical attraction, social energy, lifestyle pace, and core values. This isn't a wish list. It's a measurement of what actually holds your attention.
Who You Are
25 minutes
The same four dimensions, turned inward. This is where your persona emerges as one of 32 types that describes how you show up in relationships, not who you wish you were.
How You Connect
10 minutes
Measures your intimacy exchange: how much access you want versus how much you offer. This gap predicts satisfaction better than any compatibility quiz.
When Things Get Hard
15 minutes
Conflict approach, emotional drivers, repair speed, capacity under stress, and a full Gottman Four Horsemen screening. This is the module that predicts longevity.
Know Your Patterns
5 minutes
Vulnerability armor, desire patterns, and internal alignment. Your Tension Stack profile reveals the hidden dynamics shaping your relationships.
Your Results
Not a one-dimensional personality test.
You don't get a label. You get a complete relational profile with actionable insight.
Your Persona
One of 32 types, represented by a 4-letter code with a name, traits, dating behavior, strengths, and growth areas. Specific to your gender.
Compatibility Rankings
All 16 opposite-gender personas ranked from Ideal to Incompatible, with detailed match analysis for each.
Conflict Signature
Your pursue/withdraw pattern, primary emotional driver, repair speed and mode, emotional capacity, and Gottman screening.
Connection Profile
Your want/offer balance: how much intimacy you seek vs. how much you give. Plus attentiveness and context-switching patterns.
AI Coaching
Claude-powered relationship advisor that references your actual scores and patterns. Not generic advice, but insight specific to you.
Couples Report
When both partners complete the assessment: a 7-section compatibility analysis, growth challenges, conversation cards, and date ideas.
Attachment Style
Go deeper than your persona.
The Attachment Style assessment is a 30-minute deep dive that reveals the four psychological layers underneath your RELATE results. Your history. The emotion driving your behavior. How you make decisions under pressure. And where your persona is working for you versus quietly working against you. The result is a 3,000-word portrait of how you specifically love, not how people like you tend to love.
Relational History
Where your patterns came from, what your nervous system concluded about love, and whether that conclusion has ever been revised.
Trigger Emotion
The specific emotional driver underneath your attachment behavior. The same attachment type looks completely different depending on what emotion is actually running it.
Decision Architecture
What happens in the gap between feeling something and acting on it. This determines most of what your partners actually experience.
Persona in Practice
How your RELATE persona shows up specifically in relationships. Where it is genuine expression and where it has become a protection system.
$49 one-time add-on
32 Personas
Which one are you?
Your 4-letter code maps to one of 32 relationship personas, 16 male and 16 female. Each has distinct traits, dating behaviors, strengths, and shadows.
The Gladiator
Fitness + Leadership + Adventure + Traditional
The Maverick
Fitness + Leadership + Adventure + Egalitarian
The Duchess
Beauty + Allure + Peace + Traditional
The Recruiter
Fitness + Presence + Stability + Egalitarian
The Designer
Confidence + Charm + Peace + Traditional
The Astronaut
Maturity + Leadership + Adventure + Egalitarian
Dating Economy
Finding Your Ideal Partner
Pinpoint value in your local dating market and identify the likelihood of finding your ideal match.
Aggregate persona distribution data across U.S. dating markets. Coming soon.
The Science
Built on clinical frameworks.
RELATE isn't an internet quiz. Every module maps onto established therapeutic and research frameworks.
Gottman Method
Four Horsemen screening, repair attempts, 5:1 ratio analysis
Attachment Theory
How early patterns shape your adult relationship behaviors
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Pursue-withdraw cycles and underlying emotional needs
Internal Family Systems
Parts and protectors driving seemingly contradictory behaviors
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Identifying thought patterns, distortions, and reframing strategies
Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Distress tolerance and emotional regulation under pressure
Behavioral Activation
Concrete actions and behavioral experiments for growth
Neuroscience
Physiological regulation and nervous system awareness
Pricing
Start free. Go deeper if you want.
The assessment is free. Your persona and top matches are free. Everything beyond that is a one-time purchase.
$0
All features unlocked for testing.
- Full premium access
- All 16 match rankings + details
- Unlimited AI advisor
- Downloadable PDF report
- No payment required
$0
Discover your persona.
- 336-question assessment
- Your persona code and traits
- Top 3 match rankings
- 3 advisor messages
$29.99
The complete picture.
- Everything in Free
- All 16 match rankings + details
- Full conflict analysis
- Personalized growth path
- Downloadable PDF report
$49.99
Insight + AI coaching.
- Everything in Plus
- Rate-limited AI advisor
- Retake the assessment
- Downloadable PDF report
$119
Two partners, full compatibility.
- Everything in Pro (x2)
- 7-section compatibility report
- Growth challenges and levels
- Conversation card decks
- Shared couples advisor
$49
The psychology underneath your persona.
- 30-minute deep assessment
- 3,000-word personalized report
- Growth plan and reflection prompts
- Couples overlay available ($79)
Frequently asked questions
How long does the assessment take?
About 80 minutes total across 5 modules. You can save progress and return anytime, so there is no need to complete it in one sitting.
What do I get for free?
Your persona code, traits description, top 3 compatibility matches, and 3 advisor messages. The free tier gives you a meaningful snapshot, but does not include the full report or PDF download.
What is the difference between Plus, Premium, and Pro?
Plus ($29.99) gives you the full report with all 16 match rankings, conflict analysis, growth path, and a downloadable PDF. Premium ($49.99) adds a rate-limited AI advisor and the ability to retake the assessment. Pro ($69.99) unlocks unlimited AI advisor access.
Can I retake the assessment?
Premium subscribers can retake the assessment at any time. Your persona reflects who you are now, and that changes as you grow. Retaking after significant life events or relationship shifts often reveals meaningful evolution.
How does Couples Mode work?
Both partners take the assessment independently. With the Couples tier ($119), you unlock a 7-section compatibility report, shared growth challenges, conversation cards, a couples advisor, and PDF reports for both partners.
Can I download my report?
Yes. Plus, Premium, and Couples tiers all include a downloadable PDF version of your full report.
Is this scientifically validated?
RELATE draws from established frameworks: Gottman's Four Horsemen, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, and Internal Family Systems. The assessment instruments map onto validated psychological constructs.
Ready to meet yourself?
The assessment is free, saves your progress, and takes about 80 minutes across 5 modules. Your persona is waiting.
Begin the Assessment